The call from Spirit has grown in intensity in these last few years. Spirit is calling us to step up and to be open... to seeing our lives and ourselves. The call to be willing to shift all that is not aligned with our integrity, with our true selves and our authentic nature.
If you do not feel an openness to seeing your life and yourself at this time, we would encourage you to embrace the willingness to be willing. This can be a powerful first step to healing your life. Even though it sounds simple, the profound impact of this can be immeasurable.
If you feel resistance when trying to open up to willingness… we encourage you to to accept whatever resistance you are feeling. These are the parts of you that are crying out the most. Resistance can be the door to healing.
What resistance can be showing us are the parts of ourselves we do not accept or like. Parts that are rebelling, demanding to be seen, demanding to be heard. Our understanding and willingness to see, hear and honor ourselves heals us.
In our society the tendency is toward perfection... instead of authenticity, instead of what is Real. This shows up in many areas and ways in our society, for example… our educational system does not provide the environment for students to find their own unique authentic methods to show what they have learned.
When we are in school there is one set of standards and testing to be measured by. We are unique individuals which means we are not all linear, we are not all test takers, we are not all measurable!
We are unique... we must have the room and the environment that encourages and supports students in offering themselves and what they have learned through their own unique authentic methods.
When we are living our lives from this linear perfectionism, our mindset is essentially about getting things right and correct... instead of offering our uniqueness and authenticity.
We are not saying that linear knowledge, exactness or precision isn’t a needed, healthy or a powerful aspect to have or to offer. It absolutely is! We need all parts and aspects of our human potential. In medicine, science and math these attributes are necessary and essential.
What we are encouraging is to open up to all attributes and ways of being… and seeing the need and the worth in all. We are also introducing how many people try to mold themselves into perfectionism, trying to obtain what seems to be the Gold standard based on popular culture... instead of their authentic way of being.
The distortion and illusion… once I am perfect I can reveal who I really am… my perfect self… the illusory ideal.
This is the dance that keeps us from showing our authentic selves... as we are in this moment. Keeps us from our Real selves, our humanity… our wholeness. Our willingness to break this cycle, our willingness to be willing... can transform our lives.
The healing we are introducing is not about perfection… instead we are introducing seeing and being Real with what is. Seeing and honoring what is authentic... being open to the present moment and the truth in our lives and in ourselves. What we are encouraging is honoring our human imperfections.
In honoring our imperfections we are still accountable for our choices and our lives. We are responsible for owning all of our life… it is our duty. Our accountability aligns us with our integrity and Spiritual truth. We must be willing to be the authority in our lives... the healthy parent who is willing to hear and guide the wounded child… helping to bring the wounded child into adulthood.
People who are feeling the need to be somewhat perfect have a really hard time feeling the purposefulness of their imperfections, how the depth of their humanity could possibly serve them. And an even harder time with the reality that this is truly a beautiful part of their Soul’s lessons… creating their depth and their wisdom. It is time to know the truth and to live it… our imperfections are serving us!
Changing, growing and maturing is part of the natural current of life. We are meant to be in this healthy flow of growth. When people get stuck in perfectionism their growth and maturation are stunted to varying degrees. Fear of being imperfect, incorrect or wrong keeps them from learning, expanding and maturing at their natural organic pace.
Remember... our flaws, mistakes, imperfections, dysfunction and especially the ugly parts of our humanity... are the necessary elements we came to experience and learn from.
For most people the parts of them that feel wrong, imperfect or less than… create a background fear... I probably shouldn’t have these parts to begin with. This is one place our resistance can come from… feeling as if these parts shouldn’t be here... so I resist seeing the reality... how much they are here. Our job is to see, love and honor why these parts are here and then be willing to heal.
In Perfectionism we can’t see all of the potentials and possibilities that lie before us, because the vibration of perfectionism is so narrow and laser focused. That is why in this state people tend to be inflexible, frustrated easily, and struggle to love what is Real… Real life and Real love feel wrong.
We are not saying that people who have the natural gift of being laser focused are perfectionistic. Or that their focus would make them inflexible, frustrated and incapable of seeing a variety of possibilities. Quite the contrary, we understand this is an authentic and powerful offering and we need this kind of alignment to create a healthier world.
Our imperfect parts are still here because they have not been accepted or healed.
Part of healing is recognizing to what level you have been unable to see the truth. This realization will help you be able to see yourself and to see your life with more clarity. Including… what the truth of your life currently is.
Another aspect of healing is to understand that, in truth, being Real is the only perfection that we are able to experience. Holding this understanding about perfectionism will help you heal and transform your life.... if you are willing to see, honor and at some point, love all parts of yourself. Our imperfect parts are still here because they have not been accepted… they have not been loved. Once we accept and love all aspects of ourselves we can begin the natural process of integration. We are on our way to wholeness.
Remember, we came to learn from life. Life is not perfect, and it does not feel good all the time, nor should it. That is how life works!
We have taken a long walk down trying to be perfect lane. There is nothing wrong with having these thoughts, feelings or experiences. We are human and we are here to experience our humanity. The point now is to keep walking and be willing to see our life lessons and turn them into the wisdom we live by.
Loving and accepting our imperfect selves opens us up to healing. Being willing to see ourselves as we are... is the Salve for our Souls. Being willing to keep loving what we see is the transformational element for our imperfect human.
The Invitation has Been Sent...Time to Wake up. Time to Live in Truth. Time to be Real… Offering our Unique Authentic Selves and Gifts out to the World.
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We believe, acknowledge, and honor that it hurts to heal from dysfunction and addiction. We would also like to offer the expanded perspective that it hurts to hear the needed truth about ourselves.
It is painful to have to see the areas of our lives that need to shift and things that need to change. Because it means we have to begin to feel the pain that we have been avoiding, suppressing, and distracting ourselves from. Or perhaps we are self medicating to avoid feeling the necessary discomfort and pain.
We must open up to the Divine truth that pain is a natural state when we are healing. There is no difference between healing our emotional wounds and healing a broken bone, as far as having to deal with some pain and discomfort in order to heal.
Hopefully, remembering this simple reality and truth can help you open up and embrace the pain you have long avoided.
Remember... We Chose This Wild Ride We Bought the Ticket and Waited in Line!
We believe we chose to experience life and our life lessons. Part of this experience is pain, trauma, grief and dysfunction. These experiences we consider to be contrast are purposeful and serve in deepening our wisdom as well as… our humility, patience, tenacity, wherewithal, faith, courage, integrity, resiliency, compassion and empathy.
We can choose to go into our lessons holding the knowing that we will gain depth of wisdom and bear great fruits from our labor. From this knowing and this place we can transform by integrating all we have walked through.
Feeling victimized by our life or feeling like we are being subjected to some outside force... this is like going to Disneyland, paying a lot of money, waiting in line to get on a big roller coaster and then feeling violated and offended that we got jostled around and turned upside down at high speed by the bad people at Disneyland.
We have all paid for the ticket to be here and yet we act like this should not be happening. We should not be turned upside-down, hair flying, screaming and getting thrown around. But we chose this wild ride!!!
Post Script... We are all accountable for our lives and our part in life. Part of healthy living is discerning what decisions or course of action is needed based on the context before us. If action or choice is needed to make a stand or go a different direction then by all means we are to do just that. If we are tired of the roller coaster then go buy a ticket to the merry-go-round, sit on the bench under the pretty trees or go buy a pretzel.
Remember this analogy the next time your victim feelings want to take over, undermine and ruin your roller coaster ride which you came to experience, for which you bought the ticket and waited in line!
We encourage you to hold the knowing that there is power in remembering we chose this ride. See that it is time to own your life and to show up fully enjoying whatever is before you that you find enjoyable, and choose to see the trials in your life as the purposeful lessons that are an integral and necessary part of the ride.
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We do not need to rise above our feelings. We can Love even our hatred. Love has no problem feeling hatred and allowing the space for its transformation. In the end Love heals all.
Our egos and our personas are the ones who have a problem with hatred and most emotions that we consider negative.
It is time to give ourselves permission to truly feel the realm of our emotions. Our emotions are trying desperately to help us wake up and to see all of what is happening within us and within our lives.
Our emotions... our natural internal guidance system. They are the door to our authentic feelings and lead us to our true selves. Once we open up, align with and honor what we are really feeling... a natural unfoldment occurs, leading us into our truth, our gifts and our calling.
Here is permission…... the permission you may need or perhaps you did not realize you need... be willing to feel what you truly feel moment by moment and minute by minute... honor and acknowledge your feelings, keeping in mind that we are accountable for our lives.
Not only do you have permission to fully feel your feelings… it is your Sacred duty to do so.
We Don't Have to Know. We Just Have to be Willing to be Real...
We don’t have to know. What needs to be known will show itself in our lives, and then it will be known. Then we will know.
We don’t have to know. All we need to do is be willing to participate and be accountable for our part and our lives. To show up with the intention of offering our Real selves out to the world.
We don’t have to know. We just have to be willing to see the truth, to speak our truth and follow our integrity. Follow our own internal compass and knowing in order to stay true to our Real authentic selves.
We don’t have to know. We just have to be willing to be Real, to be vulnerable and to show up in our authentic selves as we are now.
A small whisper to your Soul, remember...
We are eternal Souls having a lesson in Humanity. It is time to remember... we cannot really be annihilated... this is an illusion and delusion of our ego. We can be traumatized, wounded, dissociate, become mentally ill or insane, experience a Soul fracture but our Soul cannot be annihilated.
We don’t have to be in perfection. We can show up and be perfect through being Real, in our Divine humanity.
The perfection we are seeking is already before us. Through our willingness to honor the truth of who we are and offer that to our loved ones and the world, we can live in the perfection that already exists.
Open up to the truth before you. The truth you’ve been trying so hard to escape or avoid but is before you anyway. You already are in perfection the moment you are willing to be Real.
The truth is healing for all of us.
Being willing to admit truth about myself and my life brings me deep wisdom.
When I push away from my reality, my feelings and my inner knowing, I also push away my life lessons... all that I am here to experience and learn.
Being willing to hear and see the truth keeps us Real.
When we’re Real, we can heal.