It is time for balance and time to remember what we know to be true. Deep within most people is the knowing that pain and discomfort are natural states when healing. This is the truth... in a multitude of ways and to varying degrees for most of us while in healing.
Whether healing is related to your past, or whether it is physical, psychological, emotional or spiritual there are going to be different levels of pain and discomfort involved. When we are willing to feel our discomfort, even when it becomes painful, this can move us into the potentiality of the change that is waiting to unfold.
Discomfort can be a Sacred experience. When your discomfort leads you into healing and changing your life, there is the Sacred. Remember it was this unease that led you into what was needed. Here is the service of discomfort… our Soul calling us into more full alignment with ourselves.
An aspect of our out of balance society is the belief that we should not feel pain or discomfort. We see this showing up in the high levels of addiction we face as a Social collective. I have experienced after surgical procedures the doctors and nurses being surprised when I have half or more of my pain medication left in less than two weeks following surgery.
That being said, after knee surgery I do not want to be in excruciating pain where I am unable to get around or sleep. This would impede my recovery. I understand the benefit that pain medication provides. It helps to regulate and relieve the initial pain, which is definitely needed. My intention in the process of regulating my pain is not to avoid all or most of the pain, but instead to aid me into regulating the pain naturally by myself.
We need to understand that being alerted through experiencing pain and discomfort is one of our body’s means of communicating. This communication may be trying to wake us up or to stop us. I have encountered in my own life and witnessed with other people how our bodies’ tendency is to not stop until we listen. What a powerful gift.
Part of our work is to help people remember the truth. Discomfort can show up in other areas and ways... our life or current state of affairs... alerting us that something is not right. Perhaps something is not aligned with our values, truth or justice.
Discomfort is coming through in order to reach us. When we feel the deep pain of betraying ourselves or dishonoring someone else, this profound feeling state helps us have the will and the desire to change. See the various ways that pain and discomfort have purpose and serve.
Another beautiful gift of pain and discomfort... they can help build character. There have been times in my life walk that I have had to call people out, and many times I was the only one saying... This is not okay. This is not just. This must stop. This felt bad and overwhelming to hold all on my own. My deep knowing and understanding of the truth is what has kept me going.
The willingness to feel bad and uncomfortable when needed is what will help change and heal our world, even if this impact seems to be happening in our own little corner.
The willingness to feel discomfort and feel badly in order to do what is needed creates depth, integrity, character and the ability to walk in truth. The openness and willingness to feel discomfort or pain is needed in order to be Real and heal.
This might show up in personal issues, at work or when you are out in the world. Our willingness to have a full spectrum of emotions and experiences makes us whole people. When we are whole we have depth and dimension, which gives us the ability to ride through whatever is before us and to truly deal with our lives. Instead of medicating, numbing or distracting ourselves.
It is now time to stop our out of control selves and society. Time to get Real and heal. We need to create a movement welcoming truth back into our lives. We do not die from seeing the truth, quite the opposite we are freed up to actually live being in truth. We become unencumbered.
It is time to go into our dysfunction, addiction and other issues. It is time to honor and respect our life’s journey, even what we consider wrong. Here are our lessons, what can become our wisdom if we are willing to learn from our life and our experiences.
A powerful tool I have used when I have worked with people is to remind them that they are not their choices. Their Higher Self and their Soul are not the choices that they make in their lives.
It is true we and the people around us can be affected by the choices that we make. It is important to hold the truth that our choices, again, do not define us. And here is the beauty of choice... we can choose at any moment to make a different choice, a choice for ourselves and for life, creating a new way.
This is the path not only to our new way but the path of rectification. By making intentional choices grounded in integrity, honor, respect and regard we can own our lives, be accountable for all we have chosen and set things right.
It can be very painful and uncomfortable to heal from any of these dysfunctional elements. One of the truths of healing is that we have to be willing to feel the pain and discomfort we have been avoiding, suppressing, self-medicating and distracting ourselves from. It is the Divine truth that pain is a natural state when we are healing from emotional wounds.
A perfect example of this is when we are healing from a broken bone, where we understand and even expect that there will be pain and discomfort involved in this healing process. Our intention is to help people expand and remember the truth of healing, that it is not meant to be all light, fresh-scented emotions. (Karla McLaren, The Language of Emotions, 2010)
Hopefully, remembering this simple reality can help you open up and embrace the pain and discomfort you have long avoided.
The companion piece is our Sacred Sadness blog.