Fall in Love With Being Wrong & All it Has to Teach You...
"The reason I'm so aligned with myself isn't because I'm perfect... it's because I don't mind that I'm not perfect."
A foundational aspect of walking back into our authentic selves is learning to embrace the experience of being wrong. In the Western mindset... being wrong is something we are conditioned to avoid, sometimes at almost any cost. What I have seen and experienced this mindset is a global issue as well.
What does this look like when we do not embrace being wrong? We don't want to be at fault.
We try to avoid looking foolish and being embarrassed.
We can become obsessed with avoiding mistakes.
We project and blame others.
We lie, gaslight or use forgetting as a tactic.
We fear failure.
We strive for unobtainable perfection.
It is Time to see how the fear of being wrong implies an underlying belief that our purpose is to only get things right. I should be perfect, becomes the unconscious feeling state, an assumed premise in almost everything... our relationships, jobs, school, the way we learn and even in our play.
We are often looking to meet an external set of standards, instead of using our own internal values, knowing and moral code. Looking outside of ourselves just feels normal.
Our objective is to try to get it "right" and nail everything...
The right beliefs. The right answers. The right ways of doing things. The right "clique's and fitting in" The right... trendy look. The right house and car. The right job. The right religion. The right way to heal. The right way to be a healer, striving to be what our society or culture views as appropriate, etc.
Selling our Authenticity, Alignment, True Beliefs and Soul's to Belong. Currently the right and appropriate manner of parenting is passive and permissive methodology. Which has swept across our modern culture and it has now become mainstream. When finalizing the new DSM-5 there were considerations over permissive parenting being considered abuse. I am sorry that they didn't follow the path of Truth, so this methodology could be seen for what it is... emotional and psychological abuse. If we follow integrity and courage in taking the side of Truth, this would have potentially aided our society and World in waking up to seeing the damage that is being done to our children by permissive parenting.
What is needed, is for parents to walk in honesty, speaking the truth, having integrity and respect, being honorable, courageous and having their authentic higher selves leading their lives. Teaching their children by example and Not methodologies.
Living from the perspective of trying to get things right tends to keep us in a looping pattern, reproducing similar types of problems and issues over and over.
Life is presenting us with repeating patterns to help us see what we are doing, so we can shift out of trying to do things right and into a willingness and openness for learning and evolving. From this place and intention, we can integrate the wisdom we have acquired from all of our life experiences, from this place we have a better ability to see the Truth of our World and then discern what to do from a place of authentic power.
For most people seeing the Micro Truths enables them to deal with seeing the Macro Truths. When these looping patterns get bigger, the out of control feeling becomes so big we feel totally overwhelmed. A common response is to want to feel better and to gain more control over our lives. When we have not healed our lives and selves it is typical to use being right as an equalizer... a way of leveling the playing field.
Living outside of our true nature and our authentic selves is an inauthentic way of being. We can then end up trying to accommodate for feeling out of alignment with ourselves and the truth by gaining more control and by trying to be right. When we are using this as a method of coping over time this method gains momentum... giving us tunnel vision, shutting us down, keeping us from admitting the truth and from seeing the aligned and more authentic possibilities before us.
When we are locked in and looking for what our minds see as the right way... this can be one of the most contracted energetic states, truly limiting our abilities and our sight. Putting us into an unnatural state, instead of being in tune with ourselves, our truth, our own knowing or the many possibilities that surround us. This dis-alignment moves us out of our more expanded and authentic way. When we are open to truth and aligned with ourselves we move into deeper connection with our bodies and operate from our Heart/Mind... our Higher Selves. It is our Higher Selves that have no issues with being Wrong and Love Learning from All of our Life experiences.
It is Time to ask... What is needed based on the context of this situation?
From my Higher Self perspective what do I feel is just or true?
What is Real for me… do I feel sabotaging energy in me or in someone else? Do I fear saying something because I might be Wrong?
What is my Soul nudging me to do? Do I fear following my own knowing, my Soul nudging?
Where am I being guided to go, what direction? Am I being funneled into my Gifts, my Calling or my Mission? Do I avoid following for fear of looking foolish or making mistakes?
Be willing to own what you know and what you don't know. Be fearless and brave in the face of fear. Be willing to own when you are Wrong and integrate the depth of wisdom that can come from this experience. Be willing to see all of the ways in which you are holding back, hiding, withholding, avoiding and playing it safe due to the fear of exposure and possibly the feelings of annihilation... that so many have attached to the experience of being Wrong.
The fear of being wrong and the need to be right can stop us from leading with our authentic selves. This inauthentic way of being tends to constrict our energy, limit our perspective and then we distort the truth and reality in order to protect our persona and ego.
When we live in this state it can be very difficult to be Real and see what the Truth is. Living in this manner hinders us from being fully in our life calling and gifts. This maladaptive coping also moves us out of our integrity and our accountability. Wake up and see the Reality of your life and the world.
The experience of being wrong is a beautiful and necessary experience for our Spiritual evolution and transformation. It is also a natural built in system for humility; while humanity awakens to our higher selves and then shifts in vibration and frequency.
Our Higher Selves have no wish to avoid mistakes. We are here to experience and learn from our faults and failures. It is a distortion that we are all here to achieve one universal right way of perfection or rightness. It is our egos that have a problem with being Wrong.
Time to evolve into a higher state of consciousness! We are in the Season of ego integration and Soul Revolution!!!
Remember… we are each here to discern from within our own moral code and knowing, following the guidance from our Higher Selves. When we live in this way we are not afraid to be wrong, nor are we afraid to admit and own when we are wrong or mistaken and then learn from our experiences.
We came to experience our unique authentic selves and evolve into our Higher Selves leading our lives. This is our Divine calling, aligning us with Source and all of Life. We are each here to show up authentically and offer our unique selves to our families, friends and the world! Our walk into this way of being is what makes us whole again.
When we feel ourselves bracing against the reality that we have been wrong... know that this is our opportunity to open up and go into all that wrong has to offer... being human and our Wisdom!
What lessons are waiting for us in the experience of wrong? Consider how having been wrong in the past has made us more balanced and wise... creating more depth of wisdom in our human arsenal. Let us embrace how being wrong can be a natural humbling experience, instead of the old paradigm of avoiding admitting being wrong as much as possible.
We can relax into the possibility that all of this is purposeful and serving us. We are being offered an opportunity to learn and grow in the depth of our character.
The more we can stand in the purposefulness of whatever we are experiencing, the more we will begin to feel and know that we are not diminished in any real way by our life experiences. We are actually more than, more than whatever mistake we made.
We expand and evolve as humans through experiences of failure. We gain so much through our lessons, we are richer for having them. And as we practice this, we cross a threshold where the illusion and fear of being wrong breaks up. We actually begin to realize there is a lot to be learned. We strengthen our ability to hold in our hearts this is not just a terrible or destructive experience, but a beneficial part of being human.
We may have learned to associate being wrong with a loss of our power or even a sense of annihilation or an underlying feeling state that we do not deserve to be here if we are at fault. As we allow ourselves to go into these feelings and experiences rather than escaping them, we begin to heal and integrate and evolve.
Paradoxically, this is where we begin to return to our power, as we move through the fear of being wrong and the mistaken sense that we will be powerless or annihilated in its wake. Instead we become courageous!
Embrace the possibility...
Getting it right is not a path of authenticity or evolution. We find the wholeness of our human self in our mistakes. Transformation can come from the openness to being wrong. Our willingness to be wrong opens us up to the unlimited possibilities and potentials. When we are in open flow we naturally have access to more of our faculties.
What is so ironic, yet beautiful is the things we tend to think of as ugly and wrong are actually the meat of our transformation and evolution. Working to get it right takes us deeper into the limitation of our egoic minds and lessons of contrast.
The call is to wake up! It is time to walk out of limitations and egoic understanding into the open awareness and Sacred joy of Spirit! Make the choice to be willing and do not give up… keep choosing, over and over until this becomes the norm. Choose to see yourself and your life… knowing the most Sacred lesson is learning to allow Spirit to lead our lives.